It’s been almost twenty years since we first met. I may not be the daughter-in-law you wanted, but I’m the woman your son chose and the wife that God ordained for him. You may call me a B*** in front of our daughter, your granddaughter, but your son calls me blessed (Proverbs 31:28) and I’m an important part of his world. You may think that I “always ruin everything”, but your son thinks nothing would be right without me. You may not care about the pain and heartache your actions cause him, but I do. You may not want to be around me or ever see me again , but your son enjoys my company and spends every extra moment he has with me. You may wish I had never come into your life, but your son can’t imagine his life without me. You may find it intolerable when you hear me teaching God’s laws and scripture to my daughter. For whatever reason, that offends you. But God delights in hearing my words to her from His heavenly throne. You may kick me out and tell me never to return, but I have an earthly home filled with love and a heavenly home waiting for me in eternity. You may hate me, but I have the love of God and your son. It’s not necessary for you to like me because I like me. You may not accept me, but both God and your son accept me just the way I am and that’s enough for me. I’m sorry it’s not enough for you. As I said, it’s been almost twenty years since we first met. I know another twenty years won’t change who you are and it won’t change who I am. My prayer for you is that the scales will be removed from your eyes that you may see truth and embrace it with open arms. I pray for you that the bitterness and hatred engulfing your heart will melt away like a popsicle on a hot summer day leaving you filled only with the love of God. Until then, please try to be happy that your son is happy, even if it is with me.
In Matthew 5:37, we are told to let our yes be yes and our no be no. After that, there is nothing more to say. So many times, the humanity of our flesh wants to continue on with eloquent speeches, reasons, retorts and explanations. But in God’s perfect design for human interactions, the only thing that should follow a yes or a no is silence. Psychologists are trained in the art of posing a question and then letting silence reign until the other person answers. This isn’t a natural state for most people to maintain and the period of silence can feel quite awkward and uncomfortable. With practice, psychologists develop a comfort level using silence as a powerful tool to gain important insights to benefit the people they are trying to help. It’s impossible to listen when we are talking. It’s in the effective use of silence that we gain our most valued insights.
God says “no” many times throughout the Bible. He told the Hebrews “No, you can’t go into the promised land.” He also told them “No, you can’t have other Gods.” Adam and Eve were told “No, you can’t have the forbidden fruit.” Jesus was told “No, you can’t escape being crucified on the cross.” Jonah was told “No, you can’t do what you want to do.” Yet, somehow, we live in a culture that expects Christians to say “yes” to everything. God sets the ultimate behavior model for us to follow and in His rule set, saying “no” is a perfectly acceptable course of action. What do you need to say “no” to in your life today?
By Christine Tate
6 And the Lord said, “Indeed the people are one and they all have one language, and this is what they begin to do; now nothing that they propose to do will be withheld from them. Genesis 11:6
By Christine Tate
The teacher never talks during a test. Once the exam begins, the teacher patiently waits in silence for the students to show what they know as they complete their tests. God tests us at various times in our life. It’s during those times that He wants to see what we’ve learned and how we apply it to our lives. For example, as Christians, we know to give thanks to God in all circumstances, in good times and bad. Are you giving thanks to Him right now in the midst of your trial? Intellectually, we also know that we, as Christians, are to have faith in all matters. Are you resting in the confident knowledge of God’s promises to you? Can you identify what God has promised to do for you? Christians are not supposed to be ruled by fear. Are you letting your fear overwhelm you or are you in control of your emotions? Sometimes, God’s silence is a compliment. It just means that He thinks you are ready for a final exam before He moves you on to your next set of life lessons.
About the Author: Christine Tate is the author of The No-Homework Women’s Bible Study: Group Hug series and the producer of the annual Christian Authors Festival in Virginia Beach. To learn more about Christine, visit her website at http://christinetate.webstarts.com.
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God Bless Everyone,
Author of “The No-Homework Women’s Bible Study: Group Hug” series and “My Prayer Journal: Remembering God’s Answers”.
About the Author: Christine Tate, originally a Midwest native, grew up in the northwest suburbs of Chicago. The only child of a successful floor trader and an Indiana farm girl, she was strongly influenced by conservative, “Bible Belt” Christian theology. She started college at the age of fifteen and graduated from USC with honors at nineteen earning a degree in Cinema-Television. After various career experiences and many years living on the west coast, she met and married the love of her life. From there, she embarked on the travels and adventures that come with being a military spouse. Christine and her husband have one daughter and are currently stationed in Virginia Beach, VA. With a passion for all things creative, she spends much of her time homeschooling her daughter, gardening, writing Bible studies and being active in church life. She is also a contributing writer to http://www.successstory.com and the producer of the annual Virginia Beach Christian Authors Festival. Be sure to visit my website at http://christinetate.webstarts.com.